Posts tagged #inspiration

How Loneliness & Isolation Perpetuates the Binge Eating Cycle

 Just as physical hunger is the signal for us to eat, and thirst is the single for us to drink water, loneliness is a signal for us to seek connection.  Unfortunately, what keeps so many people stuck from seeking the connection and support they need is shame.  Shame is the belief that inherently there is something wrong and broken with us and therefore we are unworthy of true love and belonging.  This differs from guilt, which is a signal that we have acted out of alignment of our values. While guilt says we’ve done something bad or wrong (that could be changed), shame insidiously tells us we are bad or wrong.

The cycle so often goes like this for food and so many other addictive-type behaviors:

Feel intense loneliness and shame —> binge eat —> isolate oneself and feel more lonely and shameful —> continue binge eating

I’ve seen from my experience and that of my clients that feeling out-of-control with food in itself is painful.   Add on top of that feeling like you’re alone and the only one struggling with the issue and the experience can be excruciating.

7 Spiritual Lessons I Learned from Pole Dancing

Those who know me personally know that I am practically obsessed with pole dancing.  For me, pole dancing is the perfect blend of flexibility, strength, and grace.  When I dance, I am celebrating my body through movement.

Besides being a fantastic physical workout, I have learned many spiritual lessons from pole dancing that I have applied to other parts of my life.

Self-Love: The Essential Step to Sustainable Change

In my coaching practice in my own experience, I have seen time and time again that a journey to a healthy sustainable weight and relationship with food begins with one thing: self-love.

One of my clients recently shared that a personal trainer once had said to her, “When will you be sick enough of yourself to start exercising?”  Frankly, if I had heard these years ago when my emotional eating was at its worst, I would have agreed.  Nowadays, I recognize where such statement can lead people to paths of suffering.  The statement reflects a big misconception in the diets and beliefs out in the world today - that we must HATE ourselves, PUNISH ourselves, and SUFFER in order to make positive change for ourselves.