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“The Way You Do One Thing is How You Do Everything” - Why Healing your Relationship with Food will Affect Other Aspects of your Life

Have you ever heard the quote that “The way a person does one thing is the way they do everything?”  In other words, how one approaches any facet of life can be a good indication of how they approach other facets of life.  

I find resonance with this quote myself. I find that if I’m being a procrastinator, sleeping in late, and missing on my calendar commitments to myself, I’m usually putting of bigger important things that are keeping me stuck.  If my apartment is a cluttered mess, I usually find that my schedule is overcommitted where I’ve spent the week running around feeling chaotic. Or if I’m not following through on my commitment to exercise in the mornings, then this pattern of not keeping my commitments and finishing projects is manifesting in other parts of life like at work, my personal goals, and more.

I love this quote because it reminds me that everything in life is connected.  It also reminds me that even if external results (weight loss, new job, a new partner, etc.) are not directly under our control, the internal choice of WHO we are choosing to be and HOW we are choosing to express that in any moment is within our control.  After all, regardless of the place or situation, you are the common denominator in these experiences. Wherever you go, there you are, right?

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In this same mind, I find that as we prioritize our self-care and healing our relationships with food, this soon spills over to other parts of our life.  One of my recent clients had a relationship food which reflected her overall sense of feeling stagnant in life. This sentiment reflected in her career where she felt bored and unfulfilled and also in her relationship with food where on weekends at home she’d often use food to fill the void.  But after really tuning into what was important to her, she began to develop a habit of follow through and focus as she began to prioritize her healthy eating and exercise. By the end of our work together, not only did she start eating more mindfully, she also asked for and received a raise in a job she was passionate about.

Another of my clients was binging multiple times a week and reported feeling so lonely and ashamed after the occurrences.  In our work together, she began to develop more kindness and forgiveness with herself after her binges. In doing so, naturally the binges began to lessen and she found herself showing up as more open and kind in other areas of life.  In her relationships, she also began inviting people to see more of who she was and get closer in relationship.

So I’m curious what this article sparks in you.  Do you believe that the “way you do one thing is how you do everything?”  If so, where are these patterns in life is this serving you? Where are these patterns holding you back?  Now that you know, what will you choose to do about it? :)

I’d love to hear your comments and feedback below!  Know you are so worth it.

Pain, the Powerful Teacher

Hi readers,

I’ll be honest and tell you - I almost quit on this mission…

After the money, time, and energy spent on coaching, the website, and blogging – I found myself embarrassed to tell people I was burned out both emotionally and physically.

Around May, I pulled my hamstring for the second time, which meant I could not pole dance, one of my biggest passions and outlets for stress.  Work became super busy with training 13 people, and I finished up with 4 coaching clients.  I had got them to a good place but did not feel I had done a good enough job (hello perfectionism and gremlin).  I proceeded to beat myself up and EAT my feelings...  I found all I wanted to do was to lie in bed in misery… and oh yeah, I beat myself up for that too.

Posted on August 12, 2016 and filed under Decision-making, Spirituality.

On making hard decisions - Why I denied graduate school

Growing up, I was one of those nice, good, smart kids, who obeyed all the rules and whose sole purpose in life was to get good grades, have a stacked resume, get into college, and live happily ever after. Essentially, I got pretty DAMN good at meeting everyone’s expectations. There was always someone above or ahead of me giving me structure - setting the schedule, pace, and goals to be met. There was always someone there to give me feedback on how well I was doing.